Hubby and I have been invited to a formal fund-raising dinner event ($150 a plate). There's no actual invitation, and we've asked two of the event coordinators about the dress. Both have said it is "Black Tie." In my world, that means tuxes for men, long evening dresses for women. However, one of the coordinators said, "Oh, it's quite fancy. It's Black Tie. I saw the photos from last year and some people were wearing tuxes. Most men had really nice suits on."
This tells me that she actually means the event is "Black Tie Optional," despite the fact that she repeatedly referred to it as "Black Tie."
Hubby doesn't own a tux.
My question: Should he wear a tux or a black suit? Is a short cocktail dress appropriate for me, or should I go long? (I hate wearing long dresses... they make me look short.)
What are your thoughts? What would YOU do?